My recent birthday got me thinking about age and aging. On the one hand I have more aches and pains, I can’t do what I used to do (or at least not without paying for it mightily), and I have become invisible to young store clerks at the mall. I signed up for a company that does focus groups and somehow they had my age as younger than I am. They called several times (each one would have been well paid) but when they found out my true age they quit calling. I am too old for them to care about. And the real topper was an article I read on the internet about how advertisers view women according to their age. In my category, they said that my biggest discretionary spending was on prescription drugs! Seriously? I don’t even take any prescription drugs. I have a husband, teenagers, a full time job, and many volunteer activities. I have a very full life. And yet in their eyes I am only about prescription drugs. If that isn’t enough to get you all depressed before a birthday I don’t know what is.
So I approached this birthday with trepidation. According to all the “experts” out there I am officially old and irrelevant (unless you are a drug manufacturer – then I am golden). Why don’t I feel old and irrelevant? As I thought more about it I came up with a list of blessings about aging:
1. I will never be part of the popular crowd and what’s more I don’t care anymore. As I watch my teens in the middle of all the angst about being in the right crowd and being cool I can sit back and relax. I have my friends and if others don’t like me so what? I can live with that.
2. I have quit wishing for things I will never have (i.e. a blemish-free face, a size two body, skin that will tan) and have learned to be thankful for what I do have (a healthy body and a healthy mind).
3. I have stopped fantasizing about walking the red carpet on George Clooney’s arm. Now I live in a pretty fabulous reality. I have a wonderful husband and kids. I love being here at this church and I love what I do.
4. I have quit obsessing over the Kardashians making $40 million dollars for doing nothing more than showing up. Live and let live.
5. I am blessed to have a healthy 88 year old mother and all of my siblings still here. While we continue to fight like when we were kids it is a comfort to know that they are still present in my life.
6. I will never change the world but I am ok with changing just a little part of it.
7. I will never be a cowgirl or a ballerina but that is ok because I hate the smell of manure and would never be able to starve myself to get into a tutu.
8. I have been created and am still being created by God. It doesn’t matter what the world thinks I am because God and I know the reality. I am still changing and developing and working and learning. I am a child of God and as such I matter.
There was an old commercial when I was young that said, “Now my
hair’s gray. I like it that way.” And so I embrace my gray hair, my aches
and pains, my hot flashes and know I am beautiful.
The glory of youths is their strength, but the beauty of the aged is their gray hair. Proverbs 20:29
And that’s good news!

